Deferred Dreams, Actionable Decisions

In life, you're going to have big dreams—things you want to build, do, or become.

Those dreams will make you feel two things:

• Excited about chasing them

• Anxious that they may never happen

Both emotions are powerful.
But one pushes you forward…
The other pulls you into a hole.

Step 1: Stop Falling

So what do you do when it feels like you're falling into that hole?

You stop falling.

That’s right.
Put your arms out and catch yourself.
It sounds simple—because it is.

You might not be climbing yet, but at least you're not sinking deeper.
Stopping the fall is a decision, and more than that, it’s an actionable decision.

What’s an Actionable Decision?

An actionable decision isn’t just a thought.
It’s a move. A step. A real change in direction.

It’s not just thinking about applying for a new job…
It’s actually hitting submit on one application.

That small move?
It tells your mind: “I’m the kind of person who takes action.”
And that starts to rebuild your identity.

Step 2: Start Climbing

After you stop falling, it’s time to start climbing.
Just one foot higher than where you are now. That’s it.

Climbing is slow.
It’s uncomfortable.
And you’ll want to give up.

But this is where real growth happens.

You’ll come face-to-face with the decisions that led to your fall.
You’ll replay them, regret some, maybe even beat yourself up a little.

That’s normal.

Keep climbing anyway.

Whether it’s fixing your marriage, finding a job, or rediscovering purpose…
This climb is how you heal.

Step 3: Stand & Step

Once you’ve climbed out of the hole, stand up.
Take one step forward.

Just one.

That step puts distance between you and the pit.
It keeps you from falling back in.

Now breathe.

You’ve grown. You’ve changed.
And you’re no longer the same person who fell in.

But don’t rush.
Before you sprint ahead, take time to reflect on the next direction you’re meant to go.

Here’s something I’ve learned—
It’s not just about what you want to do…
It’s about what God created you to do.
How can your work glorify Him?

Just because your first dream didn’t work out doesn’t mean you failed.

Sometimes, that “dream” was a false start.
A false nightmare dressed up as purpose.

Your real dream?
It was deferred —until you could climb out of that pit.

Now that you’re out, you’re finally in a position to pursue your real purpose.

You’ve got this.
And I’m always here cheering you on.